Taking things personally
3rd July 2014
Don't take anything personally. Nothing that other people do or say is because of you. It is because of themselves.
All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we love in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view comes from their programming. - from The Four Agreements by Don Miquel Riaz.
As you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you won't need to place your trust in what others do or say. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices. You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you. When you truly understand this, and refuse to take things personally, you can not be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others.
Try this today - it's one of the most liberating pacts you can ever make with yourself. You can open your heart to others and you can say yes and/or no whenever you choose to. You can stop adapting your behaviour to suit how others may perceive you or because of what they may say. Notice what happens.
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